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5/19/10

Nine Days

... That's how long it has been since I last heard his voice. It's starting to hit me... We haven't gone a single day without talking since we met. There isn't anyway for him to make a phone call on the ship, and I don't know how much longer before I will breakdown. He won't be home for alomst three more weeks, and it's getting to me. I get emails form him sometimes, but even being here in Texas isn't helping. I still have nothing that is taking my mind off of him. What do I do?? What's the longest you have ever gone without speaking? I need something...

20 comments:

  1. *hugs* I haven't heard from mine for a while too. As if them being away wasn't hard enough. I think the longest ever was almost a month.

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  2. You're going to be fine, I promise. You'll go through phases of wanting to hear from him/needing to hear from him, to being patient, to being angry, to being sad.

    The longest I've gone was 1mo. Those were the longest 30 days of my life. I never want to do it again, but I can say that I survived. I prayed daily, I hung out with friends (and family I was still living with them at this time) a lot, I got into a lot of my hobbies more than I normally would because I had more time, and I found new things that I liked to do.

    You're going to make it!

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  3. I'm sorry you are having a rough time. I really hope time speeds up for you guys. My husband and I are about to embark on our second deployment, and it's the pits. Last deployment we went almost a month without talking. He didn't hit a port for a while, and the time that he did call, I wasn't able to hear the phone. It was rough. I don't know how I made it through. I used to go walking around the mall and walmart, but when I would see couples together i would cry. I know I may not have helped, but you aren't alone. I'll be in your shoes again very very very soon.

    Praying for you guys!

    Samantha

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  4. Honestly I am not sure of the exact amount of days, but I would say a few months at the most? Luckily we have almost always been email back and forth. Email becomes my life force when he is deployed. I check first thing every morning and sometime in the middle of the night if I happen to wake up. I am ambivilent about receiving calls. So many times I have been away from the phone (taking a shower, out working in the yard, running an errands), when he has tried calling. That is the worst feeling, missing a call. He always sounds so disappointed and sometimes even a little bit mad. Even with cell phones I can't always pick up- and I can't keep the phone strapped to me 24/7 and make sure I don't hit any dead zones where the phone won't work. So while I do like hearing his voice, I like knowing he is going to call so I can make sure I am available to pick up the phone. Hang in there. Write some letters, find little things to put in care packages. Do you have a list of things to achieve/do before he gets back? Since you don't have kids it would be easier for you to take a trip or two as well. Don't be afraid to enjoy yourself!

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  5. I'm so sorry you can't talk to him right now. That's the hardest for me. The unknown...wondering where he is/what he is doing. Anyway, the longest we went without speaking is three months. That sucked! He was in Iraq and was traveling so phones weren't available. He did have access to the internet, though. Thank God! Hang in there!

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  6. it's been 3 weeks and counting with zero communication for us - no phone calls and no internet/emails. which is pretty sucky. some days are better than others for me. it definitely makes me appreciate what i am given - when he does eventually call and we talk for that 10 minutes, it's what gets me through to the next time. i just keep telling myself that some women go longer than me, so if they can do, then i can too. and i try to stay busy (which never really works and being told to stay busy actually just makes me more upset, ha ha!).

    i'm sorry it's been awhile for you. you can do it! and when you do get to hear his voice again, it will be that much sweeter!!!

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  7. I went 3 months without talking to Ben, my ex. It sucked, but when we did talk to each other again, it just made it that much more amazing. It made me realize how much we take the little things for granted.

    You are so strong and you will make it through this. I know you have all our support and it seems like your family is extremely supportive too. You can do this girl! Find something that makes you happy and do that over and over again. He will be home before you know it.

    If you need to talk, I'm always here. You can do it. :)

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  8. AHHHH! I guess doing a little complaining did the trick I GOT A PHONECALL!!! I will sleep peacfully tonight!

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  9. awww yay!! I'm glad you got to talk to your hubby. :) Hang in there girl, and he'll be home before you know it!

    xoxo

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  10. =( so sorry!
    I don't remember the exact number of days we have gone in the past without being able to talk (close to a month I am sure) I know it is hard. Hang in there sweety!

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  11. I left you something on my blog!

    PS so glad you got a phone call!

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  12. I'm glad you got to talk to him! I bet he misses you like crazy too...

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  13. I saw your comment and I'm so glad that you got to talk to him! Although if you do go a long time again without talking to him, remember that you can do it! It's hard to deal with but at least you have been getting emails (even though that's nothing compared to hearing his actual voice) it's still the words coming from his heart. =)

    The longest I've gone without hearing anything was probably a little over a month when Mr. M had left for Iraq. I was worried but no news is good news so I just waited patiently for his phone call. =)

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  14. Take up knitting or crocheting! I did that when he left for the Army to help pass the time. I almost killed myself and one of the kids a couple times but minor detail really. So far in the last 6 years we've never gone more then a week, I don't think. But by the end of this year we will be dealing with a deployment that I know will stretch that measly week into years in my heart. Keep your head up sweetie, it does get easier as you go through it, not fully but there will be times when you look back and realize that it's been a couple days since you last looked at the phone or sat hitting the check mail button.

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  15. in the three times my hubby has deployed...I'd have to say two weeks. I almost went crazy. And it's still hard no matter how many times he's deployed.You'll be okay...just keep yourself busy...no matter what it takes!

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  16. I know exactly how you felt when you didn't hear his voice for so long. My husband was in the Army for six years and now is in the Navy. He hasn't deployed yet with the Navy, but he did go overseas to Kosovo with the Army for one year. Sometimes it was months before I got to talk to him on the phone, although I did get e-mails regularly. (Even though the e-mails put my mind at ease, they're just NOT the same as hearing his voice!) I'm so glad that you finally got a phone call! :)

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  17. The longest I have gone without hearing his voice is 18 days. I'm so sorry girl!

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  18. aww.. hang in there girly! And I'm so glad you got a phone call. Those are the BEST surprises!!

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  19. We have gone 3 months-- yes I said 3 months. Letters became a staple. The worst part of not speaking was the inner dialogue that I had kept running over and over in my mind suddenly went mute when I heard his voice and all I could say was "duuuuuhhhhhhhh". I am such an utter fool.
    Don't worry, you are stronger than you know and he will be so proud of you when he returns to his butt-kicking-super-strong-ready-for-anything-awesome-Navy wifey!

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  20. Awwe I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time! My husband and I have gone 2 months without talking. Just through letters when he was in basic training. He was able to call, and did. Several times! But I ended up missing all his calls except the last one which was like 2 weeks before graduation!

    But hang in there! just try to remeber, time apart is only making your relationship strounger! =)

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