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Mili Mondays: Don't Do It Alone

Hey all! I’m Trish from This Life of Ours.  Pleased to meet you.

First, thank you Betty for the opportunity to write this. I had so much fun and I hope I can be of some help to other military spouses/girlfriends/fiancés etc.

I married my husband Paul, a naval aviator, over three years ago. We’ve been blessed that during our marriage, Paul has spent most of his time in flight school and other training. Up until May of this year, the most we had been apart during the course of our marriage was two weeks. Two weeks apart, over three years, in a military marriage. Unheard of, right? Please don’t hate me.

Well, as the saying goes “every good thing must come to an end,” and this proves true for our lack of separation. Paul’s squadron is gearing up for a long deployment next year so we’re in the workup phase.  Since May, Paul’s been home about nine weeks. I’m alone a lot these days. Well, besides my two adorable pups.

I’ve always prided myself on being fiercely independent. The truth is that Paul thinks that I’m a little too independent. I like things a certain way, want them done the way I want it, and usually will try and do it myself because it’s just easier than asking for help. Type A much? You betcha.

I think independence is a great quality for a military spouse to possess but sometimes, something’s got to give. We can’t do it all, all of the time. We’re not superwomen even though sometimes we feel we have to be.  I’m just a fumbling 26- year old teacher who happens to be married to a man who leaves her a lot because of his job. It’s a lonely, stressful, and tiring lifestyle, but it’s nothing I can’t handle. You know why?  I don’t have to handle it alone.

In my humble opinion, the absolute best part of being military spouse (besides the discounts and commissary of course- I kid) is the amazing friendships I have made. Friends that have done everything for me from help move a dining room table, to watching my pups, to cooking me dinner when Paul is gone, to coming over when I had to call the police after my car was broken into (good times, good times). Any hour, any day, anything, my friends are there.  There’s really no better feeling than knowing I still have people that are there for me when Paul can’t be.

So, my advice to you from my relatively short stint as a Navy wife is to surround yourself with other strong and positive women. Women that will be there to pick you up when you need it, share a bottle of wine (my friends are great for that) or take you out on a hot Saturday night date. Women like you! Put yourself out there, make good friends, and, most importantly, be a good friend. You won’t find many other careers that allow your friends to become lifelong family so soak it up! It’s one of the many sweet things to living the good old military life.


Delicious Dinner on a Cold Night

Since it is fall we have been cooking a ton of different foods with pumpkin! I absolutely love it and since it is only in season for a couple months we have been having it often. We've tried things such as pumpkin soup, pumpkin muffins, and pumpkin chocolate chip cookies... 

I found a new recipe which I just HAD to try I was a bit skeptical of it a first and I wasn't sure I would like it. I was amazed to find that it was AWESOME! You have to try this one, it's super easy and absolutely delicious. Especially topped with the cheddar cheese, sour cream, and crumbles of corn bread. MMMM!

Pumpkin & Turkey Chili


  • 1 tablespoon vegetable oil
  • 1 cup chopped onion
  • 1/2 cup chopped green bell pepper
  • 1/2 cup chopped yellow bell pepper
  • 1 clove garlic, minced
  • 1 pound ground turkey
  • 1 (14.5 ounce) can diced tomatoes
  • 2 cups pumpkin puree
  • 1 1/2 tablespoons chili powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground black pepper
  • 1 dash salt
  • 1/2 cup shredded Cheddar cheese
  • 1/2 cup sour cream


Heat the oil in a large skillet over medium heat, and saute the onion, green bell pepper, yellow bell pepper, and garlic until tender. Stir in the turkey, and cook until evenly brown. Drain, and mix in tomatoes and pumpkin. Season with chili powder, pepper, and salt. Reduce heat to low, cover, and simmer 20 minutes. Serve topped with Cheddar cheese and sour cream. 


 Buttery Corn Bread


  • 2/3 cup butter or margarine, softened
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 3 eggs
  • 1 2/3 cups milk
  • 2 1/3 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 cup cornmeal
4 1/2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1 teaspoon salt


In a mixing bowl, cream butter and sugar. Combine the eggs and milk. Combine flour, cornmeal, baking powder and salt; add to creamed mixture alternately with egg mixture.
Pour into a greased 13-in. x 9-in. x 2-in. baking pan. Bake at 400 degrees F for 22-27 minutes or until a toothpick inserted near the center comes out clean. Cut into squares; serve warm.


    Mili Mondays: Being a Fiancé

     Today I want you to say Hi! to Olivia, she is a very sweet girl who is going through deployment as a fiancé with all the same struggles we endure as wives. I know there is always a huge debate over who has it harder. I personally think it is hard for all of us, but sometimes we forget the issues women have to face being "just a girlfriend" or "just a fiance" who doesn't have all the same privileges and benefits as a wife. So I have asked her to write about life as a Marine's fiance going through a deployment! Hope you enjoy!
    Hi everyone this is Olivia from Simply Sunshine and Daisies
    I have experienced all kinds of emotions in my life but none so great as to having to deal with a deployment, it almost makes me think of what a divorce would sort of feel like. I have experience 2 deployments while being my Marines fiancé and it hasn’t gotten any easier since the first one. You may think that the wife of a military man is hard but being a fiancé is really hard…
    When I was just a girlfriend things didn’t bother me that much, I was just a long for the ride.. Waiting to hear back from him and loving the giggles from the girls that would watch at the library when I would momentarily skype with him it was just a “Oh my man does this” kind of thing for me and I was proud and anxious for his return, but I always figured it might be too good to be true.
    I survived my first deployment to tell about it! With a box full of letters and a few tear stained..
    I am dealing with the deployment with a box of tissues, a handful of letters and all of them tear stained. The jump from girlfriend to fiancé changed a lot. I want to know everything, and I need to make sure he is ok I want to be married before I become a widow you know… I watch the news (which I was put on restriction from doing L haha) and that doesn’t help being a fiancé is one of the hardest parts of being on deployment, I feel like I am stuck in the middle I am not carefree like I was when I was a gf and Im not white knuckled dealing with ankle biters as a wife.. I am sick to my stomach over plans and being worried, I want nothing more then to send out letters and packages and get letters in return (I get flowers as a bonus)  for days and days of torture building up just for a donut to change and sometimes I swear it doesn’t…
    But these are some things I have learned…
    Being a fiancé means your foot isn’t in the door yet to all the clubs and support groups.
    Being a fiancé means you get those snooty looks from the wives.
    Being a fiancé means you have to give blood samples to prove that you are military connected.
    Being a fiancé means you don’t have that option of going to select certain venue locations with the man you are going to marry.
    Being a fiancé means that if something happens to your man the military will not be sending an officer to your door to tell you the horrible news.
    Being a fiancé means that you are constantly worried about knowing things and learning more and yet never being able to find out.
    I have so many others but I will not bore you with them…
    A fiancés job is so hard; we are so young and just in a relationship the core of it is being built by a woman who wants so badly to pick up an invitation and say “Do you like this one?” or getting photos back and having to choose all by yourself.
    I have hardly had any time to my fiancé because he is just mine on loan the government owns him and yet he owns my heart so every day the government gets to tear at my heart..  When all I want is my Marine safe home protecting my heart.. as I cherish his …
    I appreciate the chance to write this post and Thank you Betty so much for giving it to me!



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    I had a great Halloween with my love, we dressed as clowns and went out dancing. Everyone kept telling us we should have entered the costume contest because we were so cute together!

    My dogs were super cute in their costumes as well...

    My computer is finally fixed and you have NO idea how happy that makes me! It's so much easier to work now that I can access everything it took hours, and a complete system restore but it works! YAY!

    I won ANOTHER giveaway and this one has me very excited! I won a photo shoot with my hubby over at Jessica Valentin Photographer she is absolutely amazing, and has photographed some of my bloggy friends including Nicole from Flip Flops and Combat Boots, and Katie from Like Sunshine After Rain

    I've finished my part of the recipe exchange cook book and am working on getting it out (Sorry Nicole) it's been a crazy week and it should have been out already.

    AAAAAND.... in only a couple weeks I will finally be on my way to North Carolina to meet Nicole! EEk! I'm very excited to meet her and to just go there, I've been through the state many times but never actually stopped there!