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5/11/10

What's worse than a One-Upper?

This to me is worse than what I have learned is called a "one-upper", I woke up this morning to more negativity a.k.a fellow military wives. I do not understand... The first thing I read was this which is part of a status update from a Navy wife, who is apparently upset at all the other wives who are now missing their husbands...

"Wont be on facebook much, its the only way I can avoid status updates from those with the E. I don't need to see people whining and bitching about their guys being gone. I have other things NOT military affiliated to worry about."

Needless to say she has now been removed from my friend list, not that that means anything to her, but I refuse to have that kind of negativity in my life. I love my husband he is my best friend, he's my world. When he is gone, life just isn't the same. I think I am doing pretty damn well with this all, I'm just so angry that people would say things like that. It makes me even more proud to be a military wife. Just to be able to say that I will always be there for any of my fellow military wives who need an ear, a shoulder, anything at all. I will never try to one-up you I will simply listen and do my best to support you! I want people around who will support me when I need it, and I will absolutely be there to do the same. All I have to say is saying that I miss my husband is not complaining, or being negative in my eyes, it's just expressing my feelings the same way I do about everything else. This is the last post I will write on this subject I promise, I was just in disbelief when the negativity continued today, and from so many people. I'm on to much happier things today!

16 comments:

  1. Deployments are hard and I know for certain that some milspouses have gone through theirs with the support that the bloggy/facebook/twitter worlds provide them with. Negativity, it's not. It's just expressing your feelings about half your heart being so far away from you. I get that she is mad but she need not be so... grumpy. :D I feel ya, girl.

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  2. Awe, hugs and you did the right thing. You don't need people like that in your life!

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  3. Wow....yeah, I would've removed her too. That's just ridiculous. I read plenty of status updates that are far worse and much more intimate than a fellow mil-spouse stating that they miss their husband. There's also this little nifty HIDE button on your facebook feeds....talk about dramatic!

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  4. Let's just call her Wanda....and any other person that you come into contact with like her. You know, as in one-up Wanda.

    She isn't even worth your time. I know, it's easier said then done, because people who say things like that just get under your skin, and it's hard to NOT think about it. I have a certain person in my life like that. Everytime I ignore her stupidity...she does something else. I've also removed her from FB...but she seems to still know how to ruffle my feathers.

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  5. Wow! This lady needs to relax!! She must some kind of stone cold person to not miss her husband. Good for you for taking her off your friend list, you are better off.

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  6. hang in there girl, you definitely don't need that!

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  7. wow, i don't really understand that, either a. she's not actually married. b. her and her husband have never been apart or c. she doesn't like him and doesn't care if he is gone. sounds like a sad person, good that you removed her.

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  8. I'm going to have to agree with Lindsay and say that the real issue is that they aren't getting along and she could care less if he's gone or home. Yay for being proactive and taking her out of your life!

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  9. Women are crazy... but we already know that! Positivity is key, and being able to be sad is well... HUMAN. =)

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  10. you did the right thing by removing her...you don't need that.

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  11. Some people just can't help themselves...you know what they say "misery loves company," and she sounds like a pretty miserable person to me. Keep your head up darling! don't let the nay sayers get to you!! :)

    XOXO

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  12. You stick it to her! And all the other one-upper's you come in contact with. You be the only kind of one-upper that's good. The kind that is the bigger person and is one-upping on caring and supporting others. You don't need negativity at all. Good for you!

    ♥ Mrs. S.

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  13. Yay, for no negativity. I understand not wanting it any where near you. You did the right thing by getting rid of "Wanda" lol

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  14. Wow you girls are A-MAZING! Thanks for all the support it's so nice to get that amount of support from you guys when I'm getting the total opposite on FB the sad thing is, all these "one-up Wandas" are all the people who are here local the only ones that I could actually hangout with if I needed to. So far the majority of them I have tried to hang out with are that way, not all though I have met some great people. I just don't understand and probably never will.

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  15. Hello Ma'am! I LOVE your blog!! Absolutely Adorable! I am now planted in Virginia with my hubby, and look forward to checking in on your site!

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  16. You already know how I felt about the whole thing via facebook! haha

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