First I just wanna say this is not directed at any of my followers! You guys are amazing!
Second, I'm pretty sure this is my first ever so called "rant" but this girl just REALLY pissed me off! First of all I'm kinda new to this whole Navy life stuff. Hell I have only known my husband for 10 months total. So yeah of course I am going to miss him like crazy when he leaves, we've had a long distance relationship pretty much the whole time we've been together. I just moved in with him three months ago. He's hardly been home since. I know it could always be worse, and I'm sure it will be at some point. I'm lucky that I get to see him when I do, and that we have such a great relationship. I know that these times we are apart only make our love stronger, but...
What is wrong with missing my husband when he's gone???
I am so tired of all the negative remarks and comments I have received from other wives. We are supposed to be here to support each other, to help each other through the hard times, and to provide a shoulder or an ear when we need some support! We all go through the same issues when dealing with this military lifestyle. They all have under ways, workups, deployments. That's just how it is. Regardless of how long my husband is gone, I still miss him the same. Why is it that just because he's not gone as long as someone else's husband this time, I have to get shit for it?!?! Makes no sense, all I know is I will be more careful when choosing who I am friends with in the military from now on, because I am not going to have someone who I hardly know, who's SUPPOSED to be a "friend" treat me badly. That's not what I need nor what ANY military spouse needs in a time like this. This has not been a good start to what was inevitably going to be a bad day anyway. I'm over it though, sorry but I had to let it out! Going to take a nap now hopefully things will be better when I wake up.
Its not a competition as to which husband is gone for longer, we all need to stick together and support each other and understand. We are here for you girlie
ReplyDeleteWell, I hate to break it to you, but there are wives out there just as you described! I like to refer to them as one-up's. Seriously....If your husband leaves for 6wks of training...there are the wives going through their deployments looking down on you, because your hubs is still state side while theirs are deployed. Then there is the WHOLE deployment issue....some are gone for 1 mths, 4mths, 7-8mths, 12 mths or even 18mths. All of us have "our situation" to deal with. No matter how long our hubs are gone....it still SUCKS to have them gone.
ReplyDeleteI can NOT stand negativity at all about this issue! Gesh....don't even get me started!
So...try to ignore stupidity! I know its hard...but we are here for you;)
Thanks girls! It's just mainly always this one person who says these things to me. on FB of course. I made one little comment about missing my husband, and she had to go there! She picked the wrong time to say something to me though, but I was as nice to her as i could be. That's exactly what she is! A one-upper, she was so he's only gone for a month my husband is leaving in two weeks for a 10 month deployment! GRRRR That's what I told her though we all go through this stuff so why are you gonna be negative to someone when you have been through it and should be supporting those of us who are now going through it. I cannot have people like that in my life. I'm a happy person, and they are trying to bring me down. I won't have it! Thanks for the support girls, I feel so much better just reading your comments!!
ReplyDeleteHey girl! I've said before that I do at times envy the shorter deployments (who wouldn't?) but I would never dream of telling someone they're not entitled to miss their other half! Seriously? I miss my husband whether or not he's gone for a month or 12 months - he's not here either way! I'd be more concerned if you didn't miss your husband when he was gone. Hang in there and don't let people get you down! You're going to power through this and kick some Navy ass (I had to think of what branch you were in again...lol). Look me up on facebook - bexavery@yahoo.com :)
ReplyDeleteDon't let these negative people get you down. They only say those things to make themselves feel better. You can miss your husband all you, no one can tell you differently. We are here for you and we support you! :)
ReplyDeletedon't even sweat people like that! i have non-military friends who say "oh i shouldn't complain to you.." and i say no, you should! we're friends and we all have things we're going thru!
ReplyDeleteI have people doing that to me as well. I'm very new (hubs has been at basic for a week) and I posted ONCE that I missed him and I got a lot of negative comments. I know it's hard to ignore them, but keep your chin up!
ReplyDeleteSorry people are poopy, not that I can apologize for their poopiness and negative ways.... I guess some people have sunk so low in their own lives that the only way they can feel better is to step on others, which is really only their loss.
ReplyDeleteI remind myself, and my tried and true friends to be a duck, and simply let their negativity roll right off you.
I miss my husband too. Big hugs to you.
I'm sorry hun! Some people are so RUDE! All you can do is ignore these stupid people and try to be positive! You have every right to miss your husband...don't let her negativity ruin your day! People like her are just Debby Downers!! Hope your having a better day!
ReplyDeletexoxo,
the navy wife
i'm sorry. :( some people just like to create drama, its best to ignore those types. :) you have every right to miss your man!
ReplyDeletegirl, i got your back! :) milspouses really need to stick together and be there for each other. I hate that there's so much pettiness between some. ugh.
ReplyDeleteThat is just sad...some people are so negative that they really like bringing others down with them...sad
ReplyDeleteOf course you miss your hubby! Don't listen to the negativeness
Wow thanks so much to all of you for your support~! & yes I feel a lot better just woke up from a nice nap! :D
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for all the negativity. You are an extremely positive person though and I know you won't let it get you down. :)
ReplyDeleteThat's a bunch of crap!!! My husband isn't in the army or anything like that, so I don't understand what it feels like for him to be gone long periods of time. But I do know how it feels if he leaves for the weekend to visit his friend downstate and even when I'm able to talke to him! It's crap that someone would say things like that! It doesn't matter how long your husband is gone, you still have every right to miss him and talk about missing him! The hell with this person...You go ahead and miss your husband! And you go ahead and talk and blog about it all you want!!! We are here for ya!! :)
ReplyDeleteOh every military wife/gf has met a few "one-ups" They will always be in your life but you can ignore them. They are biznatches for real. The important people, and best milspouses are here for you!!
ReplyDelete♥ Mrs. S.
I have an award for you on my page!
ReplyDeleteAnd I could have sworn I commented on this post!!! Keep your head up girlie